Being entirely honest with oneself is a good exercise.
Every end is a new beginning. I would like to bring your focus to the new beginning. It is not about the beginning of your new business but the beginning of a different way of thinking, without which you can hardly achieve success in anything.
Get rid of the oppressors around you
Some time ago I came across an interesting psychological test, which I would like to draw your attention to here. It was published in the book How to Master our Emotions by Nina Rubstein, which I highly recommend to you to read, too:
“Have you ever been in a situation when the person you love:
- Is controlling your time by constantly asking where and how you spend it?
- Is blaming you for both your and their failures?
- Is punishing you for your mistakes?
- Is exerting strict control on your actions by asking you for particularly detailed reports?
- Is be against your relations with your parents or friends?
- Is criticizing your outward appearance, behavior, speech, body, manners, preferences, and values?
- Is flying into a rage because of your behavior?
- Is controlling your phone calls, checking your email, messages, or is banning you from using your phone?
- Is mocking you?
- Is underestimating, insulting, or ridiculing your values and considers them unworthy?
- Is beating and pushing, kicking, pinching, biting you or your things?
- Is making you eat, sleep, satisfy your other natural needs against your will?
- Is depriving you of food or sleep and stopping you from satisfying our other natural needs?
- Is accusing you of harming both yourself and others?
- Is depriving you of your valuables and things you cherish against your will?
If you have a positive answer even to a single one of these questions, you are a subject of physical, psychological, economic, and sexual violence.”
The reason I put this test here is to make you think about your relationship and the people around you. No matter whether you have a spouse, a person you live with, or a casual relationship, you must be sure that these relations bear a direct effect on your successes and failures.